Monday, May 18, 2009

Let's be clear...

I want to emphasize that this is not a diet blog. I was thinking about diet girl and how she made blogging about being fat into a career.

I haven't read her blog but her name says it all. It wasn't about being fat, it was about dieting. People are fine with hearing from fat people about being fat as long as what they are saying is that they want to be thin and are trying really hard and even better, spending money on the dieting industry.

Forget that. That's ridiculous. Why can't people just talk about being fat, how it feels, and what we think about.

No matter what I weight, and I still weigh a lot, I will always be a fat girl.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009


I can't believe I let my one year glob anniversary come and go. I thought I started this blog later, like July. I didn't know my first post was April 30.

Well hurray for me, keeping it up for one year when I have absolutely no readers. I will have to check soon to see if any of the blogs I link to have posted made it this far.

Sunday, May 3, 2009

More food (for) thought...

(this is the post that was written for my public blog but will not appear there, not yet)

I feel like it's kind of awkward for people to watch an obese person obsess over food. It would be one thing if I had the anonymity of the blogosphere, but this is the blog that my family reads.
However, I think there are some things I need to accept. 1) Weight is not a suppressible characteristic. 2) Denial and avoidance won't change anything.

Since I don't see my family on a daily or weekly basis, I do wonder what folks think when they see me for the first time in months - how different I look from the last time and if they're worried about me.

I don't want to admit to people that I want to lose weight. I feel like it makes people look at you differently, judge all the food that goes in your mouth (which people do to fat people anyway), and it makes it worse when you fail. Everyone knows you don't have a grip on things.
I have control issues, no doubt. This is something I have yet to gain control of on a long term basis. The most useful thing for me would actually to be to have someone following me around and telling me to eat. I know because I've been in that situation and that's when I eat the least and when I really became aware of how little food it takes to become full.

Anyway, I'm not really sure where I am going with this but I thought it was something I should get off my chest. I can't even begin to explain how consuming my relationship with food can be. It's kind of a big deal.

Saturday, May 2, 2009

Coming out as a fattie...

Obviously everyone can tell when someone is fat. However, not everyone can tell that a person constantly thinks about the fact that she is fat. Admitting that is a big deal.

This is like my secret life blog. I have a blog that I do share with my family. I thought I could come out to them - let them know I know I am fat, that I wonder what they think every time they see me, and that I wish I wasn't fat.

I couldn't do it. Not yet. Maybe I can. So here I am going to post that post here instead.